My job as a career coach is not to recommend one career over another but to help people find work they’ll love by providing information on the pro’s and cons of different careers and how they relate to their individual personality, values and motivation.
However, I was asked a few months ago was there any career I would not recommend in any circumstances. My immediate reaction was well- just anything that’s illegal such as a terrorist or badly impacts people’s health such as prostitution.
Not a church career
Lately though I’ve reluctantly added another occupation for those under forty years. Becoming a priest, nun or brother in the Irish Catholic Church.
I have huge respect for both spirituality and the many good church officers doing very valuable work such as Fr Peter Mc Verry who provides support for young homeless boys and Sr Stan Kennedy who set up Focus Ireland.
The church is sick
I know individual religious who are deeply upset and angry at the official church response to the Murphy report on abuse of children but are unable to do anything about it as they are stuck in a broken organisation. It is very unlikely this situation will change as with the current leadership the church will remain “in thrall to status, titles and insigna… and distant from human intimacy and suffering”. (See here for the full article). So a young person with a strong spiritual motivation is likely to find themselves unhappy in the current church.
Don’t join if you’re under 40 years old
This is the key reason why I would not recommend a career as a religious to anybody under 40. The leadership in the Catholic Church both in Ireland and the Vatican have totally lost sight of their spiritual purpose and operate to all intents and purposes as a normal business organisation. -A not very good one at that. A normal business organisation would have gone broke or it’s leaders would be in jail or heavily fined at this stage and would have dealt with its problems.
Just one example illustrates official church incompetence and lack of integrity. Despite the fact that sexual abuse in the church has been known about since the 1930’s, the church still does not have a centralised one church database of complaints about clergy & religious. So even at this point they cannot say whether there has been an improvement in identifying & removing abusers or whether any new entrants in the last ten years have been accused of abuse.
Contrast this to Eircom - not a particularly efficient organisation, but since the mid 1990’s they have a centralised database which tells them the location of every motor vehicle and its service history down to miles per gallon. They also have a separate database for staff which tracks all staff movements.
The frog in the saucepan
If you join the current church at a young age, you are indoctrinated, a vow of obedience is required and the rigid church structure effectively becomes your family.
The old story about putting the frog into cold water in a saucepan on a cooker applies. The frog gets nice and comfortable as the water heats up but too late realises the water is life threatening.
However if you put a frog into hot water, he will immediately try and jump out.
When you realise you’re in trouble, you’ve learnt a way of life that’s very difficult to leave, as your entire working and social life revolves round the church. If you’ve joined an order with a vow of poverty, you may have no money to fall back on. With just the bare number of priests available (e.g. for the Dublin diocese there will shortly be one priest per diocese,) you’ll also work long hours and days which again reduces your opportunities to reflect. I spoke to one priest who had one day off in eight months and was working seven days a week
Express any doubts or have any issues such as alcoholism which is reasonably common amongst priests and you’ll get limited support as one ex-priest colleague discovered at huge personal cost. You’re like the frog who suddenly realises the water is killing him but it’s too late to get out.
When even it’s own members are calling for a suspension of new intake, you know you’re dealing with a sick organisation.
What’s needed to consider joining the church?
So unless you’ve
Established your own independent support networks with plenty of friends outside official religious life
Have financial stability with some independent assets or income
A home to return to if things go wrong.
Learned how good organisations operate, with experience in a range of different business and caring organisations
Developed your own self confidence and belief in your own abilities
Developed your own skills, preferably with a professional qualification.
Avoid becoming a priest, nun or brother.
Generally people won’t have completed all this before 40 years old. At that age when you join the church, you’ll be like a frog putting a flipper in to the pot of boiling water and you’ll know straight away whether it’s too hot for you and be able to jump out of the saucepan. You’ll also be able to make a stronger contribution to helping a broken church.
Note
I’m not saying that the work of the church is not worthwhile or valuable; I believe it is essential and we don’t have enough of it. I believe there is just too high a personal price to pay for becoming a priest, nun or brother in Ireland. If you feel you simply can’t wait to follow your vocation, then train abroad in a church which has actually started confronting its weaknesses. For example the Chicago diocese in America. But be aware that the Vatican still calls all the shots.
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